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  Are you walking into restaurants reaching out for the door to let yourself and your date in?  Are you getting out of the car on your own?  Chances are that you may also be paying for the meal and driving your own car too.  There is something missing in this day and age when the one that is supposed to be on top is fast becoming more and more comfortable with being on the bottom at all times.

          Do you recall the scene when Calogero Anello walked around his car anticipating and hoping that Jane Williams would reach across and unlock his car door for him?  He first unlocked her side and opened her door to let her in, perhaps that thrill wore off when keyless entry was invented, or maybe it was just a Bronx thing.  But now-a-days none of us are waiting in gitty anticipation of anything while out on a date.  Where I reside here on the west coast we live in a time and in a place where you typically date whomever you please for whatever reason you see fit.  Race, age, gender, these are no longer lines, they are more like blotches of color on a palette just waiting for the artist to mix them in with one another to see what happens.  It is my observation that in the midst of our growing open-mindedness we have all generally lost our focus on why we are dating in the first place.  This is a function meant to allow the exploration of a possible match, a human being you will emotionally and spiritually consume for the remainder of your natural born life.

          Dating now has been reduced to an online service that for 29.95 a month someone you don’t know and never met will match you with your soul mate.  If you prefer a more live connection you can always get on any reality show and meet your match.  Of course you and 29 other love searching individuals will have to battle it out to win the affection of this individual.  In addition this one person who is claiming to be searching for love is under the impression that the love they seek may be found in the back of one or two of the throats of the other contestants.  But don’t fret because for a nominal fee and a membership you can meet your match in all of 8 minutes.  While you sit in a seat others will wiz by you telling you every lie that comes to mind and it is your duty to choose from this lovely array of folks who probably didn’t even give their real names.  But if you still prefer the privacy of your own home then there is always myspace!  I am not even going to go there right now.  There is no wonder we have to either open the door for ourselves or be quick enough to jump in behind the few generations before us while they are still holding the door open for their dates.

2008-06-23

09:47:35 

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